As promised in my previous blog post titled ‘Money? Fame? Success? “In the End, It Doesn’t Even Matter” 😏😏😏’, this blog post will talk about Depression in a little more depth and also list some of the ways in which you can help someone who may be suffering from this illness.
American Pulitzer Prize-winning novelist, Jeffrey Kent once said, “Depression is like a bruise that never goes away. A bruise in your mind. You just got to be careful not to touch it where it hurts.” In other words, depression is like unto the constant bleeding of the heart. It is like living in a large black hole whilst constantly trying to receive the ray of the sun. Oftentimes, we may not be able to see it with our naked eyes. However, it is THERE and it is VERY REAL.
To better comprehend what it is like to have severe depression, let us now delve into the mind of someone suffering from it..
It’s dark….I see no way out!
I hear them telling me..
‘Just let it go, don’t think about it pray, let’s get out, let’s chill, maybe we’ll party, go clubbing…’ and it goes on and on…
Till I am zoned out…..
I hear mumblings..which only makes me sink deeper into an abysmal hole with no place to grip hold and stop my falling.
My heart screams…..but no one hears me and I realize that they can’t ’cause no sound comes out of my mouth.
A figure holds me to comfort me….I shudder and the dam breaks to release the tears….I can’t stop…..with breathless agitation I get up…….I gasp for air…….the pain tears my heart….I stretch my hands and grope the bodies that surround me.
I see now their faces disfiguring and their mouths opening to repeat ‘It’s okay! It’s okay!’
I shout but it’s weak and the little energy I have dissipates. I fall back clutching the hands of the friend nearest to me and the only words that come out of my mouth …..are…
“Ohhhhhh….I can’t take it anymore……let me go……let me go…..I want to die……I want to die…”
Having depression can be extremely exhausting. From the difficulty concentrating, to the fatigue, to the feelings of worthlessness, hopelessness and loneliness, to the insomnia, irritability and persistent feelings of sadness or emptiness, to the aches and pains and digestive problems and finally, to the loss of interest in everything, even the things that was once deemed interesting. All these can be overwhelming for an individual to bear.
These depressive symptoms can then lead to suicidal thoughts and in turn, carries a high risk of suicide attempt if left untreated. Therefore, if anyone you’re acquainted with seems to be expressing these thoughts and intentions, he or she must be taken very very seriously and those suffering from depression or suicidal thoughts must not hesitate to seek professional help immediately.
Some of these signs though, may not be as obvious as they seem. Some may even try masking their inner feelings by putting up a front. There may also be a sudden switch from being very sad to being very calm or appearing to be happy. Hence, it is important to keep a close lookout for these odd changes as well. Seek professional help for the person in need if it comes to that but at the meantime, do not make him or her feel like they should just ‘snap out of it’ or ‘cheer up’. Saying things like that can only make the person suffering from depression feel much more worse than before. Instead, being patient, loving, understanding, constantly being present and letting them know that you care and are always around to listen are some of the ways in which you can truly make a difference.
Sometimes, it may seem like there is no cure for depression or that there is no light at the end of the tunnel, but do not be dismayed! There is always HOPE. Recovery is always possible and there have been many who have fully recovered or been able to live a fulfilling life whilst managing their illness.
Dr. Steve Ilardi, a clinical psychologist concludes that “We were never designed for the sedentary, indoor, sleep-deprived, socially-isolated, fast-food-laden, frenetic pace of modern life.” Hunter- gatherer tribes still exist today in some parts of the world,” he says, “and their level of depression is almost zero. The reasons? They’re too busy to sit around brooding. They get lots of physical activity and sunlight. Their diet is rich in omega-3, their level of social connection is extraordinary, and they regularly have as much as 10 hours of sleep.” Ten hours? “We need eight. At the moment we average 6.7.” With these findings, he and a bunch of other researchers identified 6 main steps to curing depression i.e. : ~
1. Omega-3 Fatty Acids
2. Engaged Activity
3. Physical Exercise
4. Sunlight Exposure
5. Social Support
A balance of all these 6 steps can help an individual through leaps and bounds. So, have Faith!
“As ye have faith so shall your powers and blessings be.”